Sometimes seeing how someone else has answered their question, will help you answer yours. Here is a mock up version of a Vision Book with some answers.
One of the questions that humans continually ask is: “What’s the meaning of life?”
We are all hungry for meaning, for purpose, for the feeling that our life is worth more than the sum of its parts.
Luckily, humans are resourceful and we have infinite ways of finding meaning, and infinite potential sources of meaning. We can find meaning in everything!
We intuitively know that we want meaning in our lives, and that meaning helps us thrive, but we rarely stop to ask:
“Why do we need meaning? How does meaning affect us? What even IS meaning?”
Meaning is something we derive, something we share, and something we can create.
Meaningful, positive experiences can be found in many different contexts, but some of the most common and impactful experiences include:
Falling in love
The birth of a child or grandchild
Immersing yourself in a new culture or way of life
Showing someone the depth of your feelings for them, or vice versa.
Meaning can also be found in many of the small moments in life, such as:
A child taking your hand for the first time
Running into a friend you haven’t seen in a while
A loved one expressing their gratitude for you
Coming home to a happy, loving pet
Quitting something that makes you unhappy
Enjoying some unexpected time alone
CLOSE YOUR EYES, THINKS ABOUT WHAT GIVES YOUR LIFE MEANING.
Remember to pause and look for meaning in moments big and small. It’s so often the little moments that we remember for years after we experience them.
Write down the top six things that give your life meaning.
Do you often find yourself asking, “What is my purpose?” How can you find your purpose in life? Many people have no idea where to begin.
Ultimately, what we become, and who we become is the answer to “What is my purpose?”
So when it comes to asking, “How do I find my purpose,” you’re ultimately asking for a true sense of fulfilment.
Now I want you to ponder the following.
1. Over the last seven days, what moments have given you feelings of great love, deep satisfaction, or purpose?
2. Over the last month, when have you felt most switched on? What were you doing? Who were you being?
3. Over the last six months, when have you felt most alive and electrified? What were you doing? Who were you being?
4. What do you want your grandkids to say about you?
5. What activities most inspire you?
6. What about when you were a kid, before any seriousness or ambition snuck in? Which memories stand out when you think of them?
7. If you were put on this planet to use all your insights, experiences, and gifts to bring more love to the world, what would you do each day?
8. If you never had to work again and everybody adored you as you are, what would you spend your days doing to feel most fulfilled and most alive?
Finding your purpose is to live a life of purpose.
To give you an example, here is mine.
The purpose of my life is to bring joy and shine unconditional love onto myself and others. I raise others higher and encourage, teach and inspire them to be the most magnificent version of themselves.
Take your time to answer this question. It may take some time for it to come to you. Be patient.
We all have a handful of values that define how we view the world and our place in it. Even if you can’t quite name them, they’re there. I’ll show you a few tools to help you discover yours. Your values aren’t necessarily a constant; they evolve over time. You’re not likely to see radical changes but the relative importance of each will grow and change with you.
Values are not New Year’s resolutions, goals or to-do lists.
Goals are about doing and having.
Values are about being.
In your workbook write out all the values that come to mind from these questions.
Who is the person I respect most in life? What are some of the values I admire in them?
What are the values I love about my most favorite people in my life?
What personality trait do people compliment me on the most?
When I am not in a room, what positive things do people say about me?
What are all the values I believe I have, write them all down.
In your workbook you will see a list of some common values if you are having trouble thinking of them.
Next step is to look at all of these answers and you will see a common theme. Group or eliminate these. For example, you may have identified Adventure and Excitement. Are these different to you? If so, keep them both. If they both express the same core value, keep the one that best resonates, or find a word that expresses both.
Then you need to get this list down to 10 core values.
My friend Sam has a great exercise you do next.
Next step is to Write a brief description on what these core values mean to you. Your thought on this core value may mean something completely different to someone else, so write down what that core value means to you.
Then you need to fill in the Values Matrix Table to work out your top 6 core values.
Add up the total score for each value and then write the top 6 values into your Vision Book.
Then I want you to look at these six values, and if you want to take them one step further, Sam recommends you ask yourself these questions about each value.
1. What does it mean to you?
2. How does it guide your life and work?
3. How does it guide and impact everything you do?
4. How to they impact your relationships
5. Do you need to prioritise some values to get better results?
When we feel out of alignment it is often because our values are not in alignment with our life.
Your values will evolve over time, so this is a great exercise to check in on every year.
If you want to take it one step further, I have my values printed as a poster where I can see them everyday.
I hope you have discovered your values and that they help guide you to make decisions and live your best life.
When we start talking about our financial goals, we also need to consider what we are spending each month or year such as; what I spent on takeout last month, what school fees we have in the next 6 months and are the rates increasing. The best way to keep an eye on your finances is by….keeping an eye on your finances.
– Track your income and expenses
– See where you could possibly save money
– Use a budget
– Plan to pay down debt
– Review Insurances
Doing this will not only allow you to see where the majority of your money is going, but which areas in your spending are most obvious to make savings. Maybe you don’t need to have 2 coffees from the nearby cafe everyday, maybe limit your takeout to 1 lunch and 1 dinner out per week with a maximum of a $100 budget.
Once you have a good grasp on this, you can begin to really look at your current wealth and it’s value and also look to the future at what you would like your desired wealth will look like.
A great exercise is in your workbook. Write down every single dollar you (or your family) spend for a month. I know this sounds tedious but by doing this you will realise exactly how much money is wasted and how much of this could be used to reach your financial goals.
In addition to this, I know that alot of banks now have ‘budget’ style add on within their internet banking apps so that you can set a daily spend budget, track you daily spending and try to keep it to the desired amount.
There is only three ways to reach our financial goals. Save more, earn more money or be given it.
Be open to all three and I am sure you will reach your financial goals in no time.
Call this section relationship rules, or your personal manifesto for having great relationships, it’s up to you.
These are the expectations you have of yourself and your relationships that you need to live by.
They will likely be an extension of your values from page 33, and a few healthy boundaries.
One of my new relationship rules is to “give advice when asked”. As a born teacher, I find it hard not to be giving advice to people all the time! I simply ask “would you like my advice?” and gain permission now and this has made a huge difference.
Setting positive standards to live your relationships by really helps.
Others may include
-Bring out the best
-Help someone every day.
-Be 100% present when connecting with others
-My words have power, use them well
-Accept people for who they are, not who i’d like them to be
-You get what you tolerate.
If you want to take it next level, put some rules in place in your workbook for how you expect those in your life to treat you.
For instance my personal rules of others
-They love me for me
-They speak and treat me respectfully
-They apologize if they did something they regret
-They are very loyal
-They speak positively about me to others and don’t gossip.
These questions can be done over a period of time, and you can add to it as you see fit.
Having a guideline to hold yourself and others accountable makes it much easier to navigate when things can be improved. I hope this gives you some clarity and build richer relationships for your future.
As I mentioned in module one Spirituality is a broad concept with room for many perspectives. There is no single, widely agreed upon definition.
Spirituality includes a sense of connection to something bigger than ourselves.
So how does your spirit feel?
Does it feel free, wild, adventurous, loving? Write out what resonates with you.
Increasing our spirituality can be done in a range of ways.
1. Help others
5. Use movement to connect with your body
6. Go to a place of worship
9. Get a massage or some reiki.
There are so many ways to feel a sense of something bigger than ourselves, find ways that interest you.
Then I want you to think about which spiritual disciplines do you want to make progress
Spiritual disciplines are habits, practices, and experiences that are designed to develop, grow, and strengthen certain qualities of spirit — to build the “muscles” of one’s character and expand the breadth of one’s inner life. They structure the “workouts” which train the soul. Some spiritual disciplines are personal, inward exercises that are practiced alone; others require interpersonal relationships and are practiced in community.
There are a number of practices that might be considered spiritual disciplines. These include:
there are many. Think of ways that you can work your spiritual muscle and put it in your vision book.
One of the reasons why church, music, yoga and prayer can be such an uplifting experience is because the weekly rituals reinforce a sense of community. You can experience those spiritual highs by attending church, but you can also do it through creating other rituals – be it through nature walks with a group of people in your neighborhood or an annual trip with your family or a nightly dinnertime routine in which each person shares one wonderful thing that happened to him or her that day. Rituals also reinforce behaviors and give us something grounding to do on a regular basis.
• Rituals help you to “banish” bad habits.
• Rituals help you to heal.
• Rituals help you to create closure.
• Rituals help you to remain focused and goal orientated.
• Rituals help you to develop self-discipline.
Some rituals you could bring in to your world dependant on your beliefs could be
1. Create what is called a “God Box” a special box that you put your worries in, and you have to then leave them to you god to work out.
2. Have a ceremonial bathing moment,
Simply dilute some essential oil in a small bowl of warm water. You can choose to dip your fingers in the oil and anoint each energy center of your body (head, throat, chest, stomach, etc.), or you can choose to gently pour the water over your head while you are in the shower, in a bath, or any body of water. Visualise the tension in your body flowing away and your body being cleansed from any negativity you’ve had in your life.
3. Let the Wind Carry Away the Feather
In many ways, wind is symbolic of life itself. Feathers, on the other hand, are very earthly, but also fly easily away with the wind.The wind and feather ritual is symbolic of acceptance and surrender, and is particularly useful for periods of your life where you feel emotionally burdened. Hold the feather in your hand, reflecting deeply on your problems. Then, when you are ready to release the feather, blow away the item from your hand, or wait for a gust of wind to carry it off. Watch as it floats away, and with it, your worries.
4. Pray, mediate or show gratefulness daily
5. Have a day of complete disconnection and no speaking to anyone,
There are literally hundreds of ways to connect to your and a higher spirit.
Put some rituals into your Vision Book that you are committed to doing.
There are so many things you can do to feel like you are connecting to something bigger than yourself, enjoy exploring this area of your life and seeing what resonates with you.